多用脑，少用嘴，婚姻生活中也是如此。
与君共勉啊！！！

怎么忍得住啊

唉，我好像一向是多用嘴，少用脑的

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引用第42楼lynn于2010-05-14 19:00发表的 :
唉，我好像一向是多用嘴，少用脑的

我怎么觉得你就是温文尔雅，沉默寡言的代表呢

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引用第40楼咚咚妈咪于2010-05-14 16:47发表的  :
多用脑，少用嘴，婚姻生活中也是如此。
与君共勉啊！！！

信咚妈, 得幸福!

The Chicken And The Duck Story（鸡和鸭的故事）   
 
A newly married couple went for a walk together in a wood, one fine summer evening after dinner. They were having such a wonderful time being together until they heard a sound in the distance: 'Quack! Quack!'

'Listen,' said the wife, 'That must be a chicken.'

'No,no. That was a duck,' said the husband.

'No, I'm sure that was a chicken,' she said.

'Impossible. Chicken go "Cock-a-doodle-doo", ducks go "Quack! Quack!" That's a duck, darling,' he said, with the first signs of irritation.

'Quack! Quack!" It went again.

'See! It's a duck,' He said.

'No dear. That's a chicken. I'm positive,' she asserted, digging in her heels.

'Listen wife! That is a duck. D-U-C-K, duck! Got it?' he said angrily.

'But it's a chicken,' she protested.

'It's a blooming duck, you, you.'

And it went 'Quack! Quack!' again before he said something he oughtn't.

The wife was almost in tears. 'But it's a chicken.'

The husband saw the tears welling up in his wife's eyes and, at last, remembered why he had married her. His face softened and he said gently, 'Sorry, darling. I think you must be right. This is a chicken.'

'Thank you, darling.' She said and she squeezed his hand.

'Quack! Quack!' came the sound through the woods, as they continued their walk together in love.

The point of the story that the husband finally awakened to was, who cares whether it is a chicken or a duck? What was much more important was their harmony together, that they could enjoy their walk on such a fine summer evening. How many marriages are broken over the unimportant matters? How many divorces cite 'chicken or duck' stuff.

When we understand this story, we will remember our priorities. The marriage is more important than being right about whether it is a chicken or a duck. Anyway, how many times have we been absolutely, certainly and positively convinced we are right, only to find out we were wrong later. Who knows? That could have been genetically modified chicken made to sound like a duck!

The lesson from this timeless teaching can apply in us from all walks of life.



This was a favourite story of Ajahn Brahm’s teacher, Ajahn Chah of

Thailand.

另外在网上看见的：

　　家政学校的最后一门课是《婚姻经营和创意》，主讲老师是学校特地聘请的一位研究婚姻问题的教授。他走进教室，把带来的一叠图表挂在黑板上，然后，他掀开挂图，上面是用毛笔写的一行字：

　　婚姻的成功取决于两点：一、找个好人。二、自己做一个好人。
　　“就这么简单。”教授说。

　　这时台下嗡嗡作响，因为下面有许多学生是已婚人士。不一会儿，有一位30多岁的女士站了起来，说：“如果这两条没有做到呢？”


　　教授翻开挂图的第二张，说：“那就变成4条了。”
　　一、容忍，帮助，帮助不好仍然容忍。
　　二、使容忍变成一种习惯。
　　三、在习惯中养成傻瓜的品性。
　　四、做傻瓜，并永远做下去。

　　教授还未把这4条念完，台下就喧哗起来，有的说不行，有的说这根本做不到。等大家静下来，教授说：“如果这4条做不到，你又想有一个稳固的婚姻，那你就得做到以下16条。”


　　接着教授翻开第三张挂图。

  　一、不同时发脾气。
　　二、除非有紧急事件，否则不要大声吼叫。
　　三、争执时，让对方赢。
　　四、当天的争执当天化解。
　　五、争吵后回娘家或外出的时间不要超过8小时。
　　六、批评时话要出于爱。
　　七、随时准备认错道歉。
　　八、谣言传来时，把它当成玩笑。
　　九、每月给他或她一晚自由的时间。
　　十、不要带着气上床。
　　十一、他或她回家时，你一定要在家。
　　十二、对方不让你打扰时，坚持不去打扰。
　　十三、电话铃响时，让对方去接。
　　十四、口袋里有多少钱要随时报账。
　　十五、坚决消灭没有钱的日子。
　　十六、给你父母的钱一定要比给对方父母的钱少。

　　教授念完，有些人笑了，有些人则叹起气来。教授听了一会儿，说：“如果大家对这16条感到失望的话，那你只有做好下面的256条了。总之，两个人相处的理论是一个几何级数理论，它总是在前面那个数字的基础上进行二次方。”

　　接着教授翻开挂图的第四页，这一页已不再是用毛笔书写，而是用钢笔，256条，密密麻麻。教授说：“婚姻到这一地步就已经很危险了。”这时台下响起了更强烈的喧哗声。

　　不过在教授宣布下课的时候，有的人坐在那儿没有动，他们的眼角好像还有泪花。

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引用第44楼阿布于2010-05-15 11:36发表的  :


信咚妈, 得幸福!

别起哄，认真点，现在老刘动不动就对我撇着嘴说“且，吴仪……”

鸡鸡鸭鸭的故事很有意思啊。。。